Forgive Yourself Now, Will you??
20 Observations:
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maybe i wud have spoke out. people who dsnt know to respect others dsnt deserve any respect.
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hey dollz...stay calm n cool...i can sense yer exact feelin right now...well v blong 2 de same party...ive been silently watchin lozz of similar stuff in my life...all ive done till date is convert them into humourous sarcasm n post in my blog.
der r indeed loz of stuff dat u hav nothin 2 do about...de fact is itz often better 2 not take unnecessary roles...de world is not such a gud place 2 live...u cant find too many happy people around u...n itz impossible 2 make evry1 around smile..
so dear keep smilin n help spread smiles atleast 2 de nearest(forexample by ringin kochu..)
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This is seriously fucked up.What is she...her servant or pet animal?
You can help her to a certain bit but ultimately she'll have to stand for herself.
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we all have our moments of guilt and shame.. learn NOT to repeat once u realized,... sometimes jst divverting the person's mind can help the victim !
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My God! I can relate to your state of mind. Even I have behaved like a mute spectator in some situations. I feel guilty for not speaking up sometimes. I don't know wht stops us!
And I know how it feels when a family friend interferes way too much in ur life. Moreover, the rich and the influential think they can dominate others. I remember hw the manager of our gym mistreated a poor lady working thre, fr no fault of hers.
I admire women like 'Aunty'. There are so many like her. May God bless her!
And u take a chill pill!
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I can understand how terrible you must be feeling right now.
But never mind, make sure you (atleast try to) speak up against injustice henceforth. It is never too late.
And ab cheer up kar lo jee. You are an amazing girl. And you know that. :D
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just chill dolls ...i wish to give u the jaddo ki jappi...just relax leave alone the people who cant respect others...they dont even deserve anything...:)...
urs..hemu..
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No matter how pissed off you are, no matter whatever is going on in your mind, there is a way to treat a woman, a humility, a kind of ettiquette and language that one maintains. I have no respect for people like him."---exacxtly the way I feel.
Even in the book Joker in the pack..same is written how aunties and uncles become advisor and when one is succesful, the same people come to u for advice.
I know how u must be feeling, I also feel the same when my Hstops me from speaking, but one day u will gain the courage and guts to speak up, just keep ur sensibilities intact.
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You gotta teach her how to fight back, when her self respect is being hurt. It might take time, but I am sure one day, she will stand for herself and her self respect. At that time no one would be able to humiliate her, the way she was by the so called uncle.
Its like awakening a sense of defence in her. Try it...
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hm... every problem have two sides, and there is no absolute right or wrong. My wrong can be your truth, so it is not easy to say one act is wrong and other is true.
I feel that you could have tried to stop the uncle ji from saying the abusive words, but I am not sure whether you could have made him stop - from what I read, people like him rarely listens to others, and they feels what they do is right and all others should follow them. You have lot of patience to endure him - why dont try some sarcasm when next time he is there to offer his gyan.
and next time, do act. it gives you a lot of peace of mind.
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Now forgive yourself, will you? As reb says, it's never too late. Gather enough strength for the next time.
Cheers!
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First things first,The uncle doesn't deserve ur respect or anyone else's for that matter.I can understand ur father's friendship with him,But I ges u could convince ur dad to the point that his friendship with him had nothing to do with what this uncle was doing with the rest of them.And,maybe he could have tried out speaking to this man about the whole ruckus.But then,I suggest if something similar hpns henceforth,you must prolly speak yoiur mind out with due respects to ur dad.
afterall,how long can u c the aunty cry??
Take care dearie.. :)
Nikhil
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it might be easier to say ki u shud have protested...
but I think sumtimes one need to practice refrain
har lafde ladai mein padogi toh it will be ur loss only....
so like ur sis said
learn to forgive and forget
abhi bahut kuchh dekhna hai
remember ..it may sound worse but it is the fact that people who survive are the people who learn to take advantages out of nowhere...so learn to hid ur feeling and learn to control ur anger :)
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ahhh!! I do not know what to say..coz how can I put up my poinion when I myself have kept quiet many a tymes when i could have expressed my anger or disapproval.
I'd just say..I have not been able to forgive myself..but still the alternative chosen instead..helps me to come over the guilt.
well most of the tymes its a big dilemma
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Everyone said take a chill pill to you. I guess they didnt see the ad on the TV: "Stop marriage abuse, ring the bell'. I suggest you to do that if u wanna do something about the lady.
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Smrithi...its ok, there's no need to beat urself up for this incident. I doubt even if u interceded on her behalf tht man wd have cn reason:-S
All tht wd have happened was tht he wd have complained to ur father abt u & inturn their relationship wd have spoiled bcoz of this.
U seem too sensitive...learn to let go...otherwise it messes up your mind:-(.
I tried but couldn't read all of it nevertheless I got the point you are trying to make...or may be what you were trying in first half of post...firstly you are supposed to hear from all and do your own, and secondly you can try to improve things that are in your control but you have to believe that it is destined in someone's life and you have no control what so ever :)
P.S : I am first one yet again to comment on your post..!!!